Losing someone you love is one of the hardest things in life. Grief is a normal part of loss, and over time, most people find ways to adjust. But for some, the pain doesn’t fade the way it usually does. Instead, it stays just as strong—or even gets worse—making it hard to move forward. This is called complicated grief.
Complicated grief, also known as prolonged grief disorder, is when someone feels stuck in intense sadness for a long time. While regular grief comes in waves and slowly becomes easier to manage, complicated grief doesn’t follow that pattern. People with this condition often feel like they can’t accept the loss, and they struggle to find meaning in life without their loved one. They may feel numb, have trouble thinking about anything other than the person who passed away, or even avoid places and things that remind them of their loss.
Studies show that about 10% of people who lose a loved one experience complicated grief. Research from Dr. Katherine Shear at Columbia University has found that this condition can affect a person’s brain in ways similar to post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). It can make daily life difficult, affecting sleep, relationships, and even physical health. Some researchers believe that certain factors, like losing someone suddenly or tragically, can make complicated grief more likely.
Unlike regular grief, which lessens over time, complicated grief can last for years without improvement. Research shows that psychotherapy can help. There is not one technique alone that is recommended for grief, but it is important you see someone who understands that grieving process and knows how to help clients heal from complicated grief.
If you or someone you know is struggling with grief that doesn’t seem to get better, it’s important to reach out for help. Healing doesn’t mean forgetting—it means finding a way to carry your love and memories forward while still living your life.
To learn more about Complicated Grief: https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/complicated-grief/symptoms-causes/syc-20360374